Unfortunately, rather than being a time of joy, the holiday season for some can cause excess worrying, evoke additional loneliness, raise stress levels, exacerbate negative behavior patterns, and bring up unique challenges. As the year ends, there can be feelings of regret for past decisions, memories of old hurts, or feelings of being overwhelmed. It is important to remember to intentionally manage the emotional challenges that come up.
While the positive aspects of the holiday season are many, especially the opportunity to connect and engage with friends and family, it is, as we know, not always a perfect story. Pressures can mount with any combination of stresses such as extra financial burden, having to face or handle complex relationships, or scheduling challenges all particular to the holiday season.
Sometimes external pressures create undue stress on intimate relationships and it becomes difficult to prevent irritation, bickering, disagreements, or longer standing resentment from flaring up Getting through the Holidays.
Tips to lower stress and keep it positive Getting through the Holidays
Don’t do it alone:
Its time for the team approach. Resist shutting down and instead do the opposite. Ask for help, be open to suggestions, and always remember to appreciate your partner’s efforts and presence in your life. Make it evident to your partner that you are there to support them as well. Nurture and foster your closeness – afterall a burden shared does feel lighter!
Don’t lose sight of your connection:
Holidays are a busy time for many. During such times, it is especially important to remind your partner how special they are. Amidst social engagements, work parties, times with family and friends, be sure to remember to spend some alone time with your partner letting them know they matter oh-so-much! Special treats such as a back-rub, or picking up dinner can go a long way specially during busy times.
Offer comfort:
At times of stress, it can be incredibly helpful to find safety and comfort with a partner. Offer your partner understanding, comfort and a safe haven in your company. Care about their concerns and let them know in small and big ways that they mean the world to you!
Communicate:
Be open and communicative about your likes, dislikes, preferences, priorities, etc. and be prepared to hear your partner’s perspective as well. Share your thoughts, feelings, and challenges with your partner and tune in to listen to theirs. Make plans on how to tackle holiday challenges by sharing the work, and dividing the chores. Be prepared to be inclusive with traditions and priorities that may be important to either of you.
Managing holiday expectations and seasonal pressure often requires adjusting how you interact as a team. Read Prioritizing Connection in Difficult Times: How Couples Can Stay Close Under Stress to keep your bond secure during high-pressure seasons.
Deal with conflict:
Hope for the best, plan for some hiccups! Remind yourself and each other that kindness and compassion can make most things better. If conflict shows up work through it with kindness and compassion in mind. If upcoming events are especially anxiety-provoking, explain your concerns and don’t hesitate to ask your partner for extra support or help to work through a situation. Be readily available to offer your partner your support should they need it getting through the holidays.
Festive seasons, holidays, high-stress times, jointly experienced losses, extreme joys, or sorrows, etc. are such that they can either bring a couple closer or create extreme rifts. Getting through the Holidays especially can serve to remind one of the loved ones who have passed and / or family that is difficult to deal with. Whatever may be the case, the high stress along with other holiday accouterments such as drinking, partying, and family politics exacerbate the chances of relationship distress. Studies show that around such times chances of one night stands, flings, and affairs increase as well. Heightened emotions and nostalgic feelings during the holiday season may increase vulnerability and lead one to seek comfort outside the primary relationship.
When seasonal stress leads to sudden emotional distance or boundary slips, understanding the underlying risks is key. Explore What to Do If You Catch Your Partner Sexting to learn how to address impulse-driven boundary breaches.
Self-care must be made a priority, especially in the holiday season. Practicing self-care provides a healthy model for others in the family and gives your partner the unspoken permission to commit to their own self-care as well. Self-care promotes healthy relationships because it brings a healthy you to your relationship. Read more Tips for Building a Healthy Relationship.
Self-care tips for a healthy YOU:
- Ensure you get daily time for yourself, even if just ten minutes to check-in
- Treat yourself with kindness and compassion… as you would a best friend!
- Make healthy and nutritious meal choices
- Eat and sleep on time
- Be mindful of your alcohol and caffeine intake
- Prepare beforehand for difficult family interactions if you expect these
- Use your support system and reach out to your partner to share your feelings
- Be aware of your physical and emotional limits and respect them
- Do not take on financial distress beyond your capacity
- Remind yourself it is okay to say no to things you don’t want to do
- Create and follow traditions that you like
Navigating family politics, seasonal overwhelm, and relationship strain can feel exhausting. Take the first step toward connection in your partnership by reaching out via our Couple Care Contact Page.
Protect Your Relationship During High-Stress Seasons
Holiday pressure doesn’t have to pull you and your partner apart. With intentional self-care, open communication, and proactive support, you can turn seasonal stress into an opportunity for deeper connection. Whether you are seeking specialized couples therapy in Orange County or exploring convenient online sessions across California, Couple Care offers a steady, compassionate space to help you navigate the season together.
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